When I hear the word soulmate what I think of is a relationship that is already bound to fall apart. I imagine a person in love; ignorant; naive. It is hard not to sound cynical talking about love in contemporary society I feel. I believe society conditions us to crave a true love that is in fact not true at all. I think true love is commonly misconceived and therefore when this supposedly unconditional love proves unsuccessful it empowers the perception that unconditional love, true love, is not real when in reality these conclusions are based upon a love that could not be further from. The same applies to the misconception of soulmates, a concept that has been manipulated and abused by media and society almost as considerably as love. The root of romantic cynicism how I perceive it.
A month ago I met a man; someone I was not looking for, but somehow could not ignore. Why I felt drawn to engage with him initially is still a mystery and why he felt drawn to me is a story for another time.
We went on our first date. I am not going to lie I primarily went because I desperately needed someone to share a bottle of wine with me. And so he did. And so he continued to do. We both felt this intense, unique energy in each others presence, a spiritual connection, both beyond expression. We gradually learnt more about each other and surprisingly discovered that we were inconceivably similar. Initially, these similarities appeared as and were perceived as fortunate coincidences, however as we spent more time together it became obvious to both of us, that coincidences are merely a human concept to organize unstructured events, that cannot be explained in any other manner; and that our similarities was way beyond sharing same interests. Our individual yet identical recognition we kept to ourselves; mainly due to the fact that we had only been dating for 3 weeks; and I am convinced that it is in the first chapter of the common society dating handbook that you are not supposed to call someone your soulmate even before you have agreed to be exclusive. Additionally all this was actually prior to even considering the concept of being soulmates.
I absolutely regret that I did not write down our conversation that night right after we had it but that is how it is with a connection and a conversation like ours that night, you loose track of everything else; and to be honest that feeling never left me after that. I have unsuccessfully attempted to recall exactly how our conversation initiated but somehow we found ourselves gradually opening up to each other about the connection we had felt over the past few weeks and in that moment I felt our spiritual connection manifest. Everything he said resonated with me, everything I felt, he felt as well. Communicating our experiences was demanding even as we cooperated in the attempt to find words; every phrase was enlightenment; even as we conclusively agreed that the English language is insufficient in the expression of such spirituality.
The following day I was utterly unable to think of anything else. What I had felt, and what we had both felt that previous night was so pure and real that it was impossible to deny, yet still seemingly, simultaneously impossible to confirm. Until I remembered a fraction of a documentary I watched years ago about how souls, in their creation, are divided in two thus destining the souls to embody two different physical shells despite their creational union. I instantly initiated a research, a search for some answer; and just as I was about to give up I discovered an article; an article accurately explaining every conscientious detail of what we now understand as our initial, united, spiritual awakening. Reunited.
This is what I found:
“The moment your soul was created it possessed male-female, ying-yang polarity and energy. God’s love for you made sure that these two complimentary forms of consciousness, the masculine and feminine, would be bound together throughout eternity.
The two halves of one soul have been called twin souls, twin vibrations, twin rays or twin flames. Said another way, you only have one twin aspect of your soul in the entire universe who vibrates at the same frequency of light that you do. This is quite an awesome thought. However, the story is a bit more involved than this simple explanation.
Soon after our souls were created we left the joy and bliss of the Absolute to enter and experience the physical universe, in which we currently find ourselves. Originally we were ONE complete soul, one family, one Being. There was no separation, just complete joy and unspeakable bliss. However, when we left the Absolute to enter our universe of duality and opposites, all of that changed.
The ONE Soul, which was originally whole, began to separate and divide into smaller and smaller fragments of Itself over the ages. This occurred so that we could eventually relate to one another as races, nations, and families, or as individuals while in the physical universe of opposites.
As the splitting of the ONE occurred, relationships were born. And it is through relationships that we create opportunities to know ourselves, to remember our divine origin, to seek reunion and oneness with one another and eventually return to our Source. The twin relationship plays a very important role in all of this, as part of the divine, cosmic plan.
At the end of the cycle of division, our individual souls made one final and very painful decision. We separated from our twin, the other half of our soul-self, when we lost our way on planet Earth and became physical man and physical woman. We did this for a reason. As part of the divine plan, separation had to be experienced at all soul levels. This included twins within the same soul, so that we could initially experience and feel what separation was like. Then, when the time was right, we would reverse the entire process and experience the ecstatic joy of reunion.
Over the ages, and throughout our many lifetimes, the experiences and feelings of separation constantly reminded us of our yearning and craving for completion with our Source and with our twin. That inner hunger for wholeness is why we search for romance and relationship. That is why we have families. That also is why we seek God. We are trying to re-create the same oneness we felt in the beginning.
At some magical moment in cosmic time, each of us will reach a point during our personal growth and evolution where separation is no longer the path of choice for us. The signal that would ignite the experience of soul reunion would be our spiritual awakening. In the process, we would also remember and realize that we are divine Beings of Light.
Awakening to our true spiritual nature takes us on a inner journey that leads to the opposite of separation, which is reunion. As you can well imagine, reunion brings with it feelings of love, joy, bliss and ecstasy. At that moment, the soul begins to crave oneness with its Source. Part of this hunger will be satisfied by reunion with our twin. From what I read, this is when the journey home to our Source begins in earnest.
Our spiritual awakening will eventually inspire us to question, and then cause us to discard, the false beliefs we have about traditional relationships, which are primarily ego driven and fear based. We will discover that, in order to have a lasting, fulfilling and meaningful partnership, the positive energy of unconditional love will have to replace the negative influence of the ego.
Once twins begin to think and feel this way they are setting the stage for reunion. And once reunited, the twins will still have to work at their relationship to make it a lasting and rewarding one. Twin reunion by itself does not guarantee happiness. It simply sets the stage for it. Bringing a powerful spiritual awareness and a strong sense of Self into a newfound twin reunion will provide the sustenance and glue for its balance and longevity.
Another very important step prior to reunion is the need for balancing the masculine and feminine energies within each of us. The masculine half has always retained some of the original feminine energy that the soul possesses, while the feminine half still holds onto a part of the masculine essence it once was united with.
Since that time, we have roamed around in this incomplete, unbalanced state of being looking for soul completion. We’ll continue to experience life after life and relationship after relationship until we decide we’ve had enough separation from our other half and want something more fulfilling.
One of the most important things to keep in mind is that it is very easy to fall in love with the “picture” of the twin soul concept and be blinded by all that it promises. That has to be brought into proper focus and balance. Another danger is over-idealizing and hyper-romanticizing your partner and your relationship to the point where you believe you will live happily ever after regardless of what the future brings. That is not true. Depending upon one’s level of spiritual development, twin souls can have varying degrees of ego issues just as other partners do.
Over many lifetimes soul mate relationships prepare us for lasting twin reunion. They are a very important part of the process and should be blessed as such. Most often, soul mate unions will last longer and be more rewarding than the electrifying, but often stormy, twin pairings. Twin soulship is a very highly charged partnership and the two must be spiritually ready for it to last. When they are, their union will transcend all others.”